Gutakaza n'imbaraga z'umuryango
Gutakaza n'imbaraga z'umuryango
Nkandika ibi, ni -4 ° Fahrenheit. Ibyo birakonje rwose, ariko ibyingenzi byisi nibikonje: -455 ° Fahrenheit! Inyenyeri yacu idukomeza gushyuha cyane mugihe isi yacu yegamiye kuri yo mugihe cyizuba kuburyo iyo twegamiye mugihe cyitumba, imbeho iranyerera nka Krampus (ishusho yimigani iteye ubwoba yo mumigenzo yabanyaburayi yuburengerazuba). Gutakaza ubushyuhe mugihe cyitumba ntibigomba kudutangaza, ariko gutakaza ubwoko ubwo aribwo bwose.
Agahinda akenshi kumva ko ari ubusa kandi hakonje. Ko abantu bashizeho imihango iduteranya mugihe cyitumba nubuhamya bwubwenge bwacu.
Urashobora, byanze bikunze, ukomezanya numunsi wawe, ariko niba ushaka gusoma bike kubijyanye nigihombo nimihango yabaturage bifitanye isano nubuturo bwera, soma.
The “L” of the SELF piece in the Sanctuary Model is for Loss. According to the Sanctuary Standards for Certification, it is important for members of an organization to acknowledge and grieve instances of loss and distress, but also to intentionally allow “the past to constructively inform decisions about present and future issues.”
Uburyo bumwe bwo kubitekerezaho nuko impinduka zose zirimo igihombo. Uburyo bwo guhinduka no gutakaza mubuvuzi birashobora kuba biteye agahinda, ariko birashobora kandi kuba intambwe yiterambere, nkigihe umurwayi wabana abaye mukuru kandi agasaza kuva mubitanga kugeza kubandi, mugihe umwana yavutse nyina akava muri OBGYN akajya ubuvuzi bwumuryango, iyo mugenzi wawe abonye kuzamurwa mu ntera cyangwa guhindura amashami, cyangwa iyo inkunga irangiye cyangwa itangiye guhatira redirect yo kwitabwaho nimbaraga.
Generally, we do not do well with loss. We whisper about therapy the way people used to whisper about cancer. Emotions make us uncomfortable. We whisk our dead away quickly and are even quicker to say “everything is going to be okay” when, in many cases, it won’t. Other individuals have brought rituals of community to help fellow humans through loss, such as sitting shiva and Irish wakes. But as new citizens assimilate such rituals themselves often are lost to an ever-churning progress machine. We don’t take time off, don’t have much patience for sadness, and show our irritation with terms like “stuck in the past.”
The thing about loss is that if we don’t address it head-on, it gets stuck in us.
Physicians like Bessel van der Kolk and Gabor Mate have spoken out for decades about the effect distress has on the body. Diffuse pain, digestive issues, and even heart conditions can be symptoms of unresolved distress. It is more acceptable to stuff our pain with food or drink it away with alcohol than it is to take a yoga break during the workday or seek help from a therapist.
Life can be very cold, and isolation makes it worse. The warmth of community can help with the processing of loss and grief, but all too often we withhold community from one another and ourselves.
To become a Sanctuary organization is to become a place where we come together intentionally in community and engage in rituals to support the processing of not just loss, but the daily challenges of being in health care such as missed visits and disappointing outcomes. This processing is active; it is not dwelling. It is recognition of what happened without varnish or gloss and also intentionally learning the lessons.
Uyu ni umurimo ukomeye. Uyu murimo urasaba ko umuntu wese ugira uruhare rwose, rwose akandagira mukibuga cyabonetse - intimba nibindi byose. Mu bwenegihugu bwe mu ijambo rya Repubulika mu 1910, uwahoze ari Perezida Theodore Roosevelt yagize ati:
Ati: "Ntabwo abanegura babara: ntabwo umuntu ugaragaza uburyo umuntu ukomeye atsitara cyangwa aho uwakoze ibikorwa yashoboraga gukora neza. Inguzanyo ni iy'umugabo uri mu kibuga, mu maso he harangwa n'umukungugu n'ibyuya n'amaraso, uharanira ubutwari, ukibeshya ukaza vuba na bwangu, kuko nta mbaraga zidafite amakosa cyangwa amakosa, ariko ninde izi ishyaka rikomeye, ubwitange bukomeye, ukoresha igihe gikwiye; ninde, nibyiza, azi, amaherezo, intsinzi yo kugeraho cyane, kandi ninde, mubi, aramutse ananiwe, byibuze ananirwa mugihe yatinyutse cyane, kugirango umwanya we utazigera ubana nubugingo bukonje kandi butinyitse utari uzi intsinzi cyangwa gutsindwa. ”
Hano ni ugutinyuka. Biteye ubwoba hano, n'imbeho, ariko bike cyane iyo dutinyutse hamwe.
Inama yihuse
Hano haribikorwa byinshi byo kurekura kumubiri kumurongo. Dore imwe ushobora kugerageza kukazi ntawe ubibonye:
- Hagarara ukoresheje ibirenge byawe neza bitugu-ubugari butandukanye.
- Witonze witonze ibiro byawe kuruhande rumwe rwumubiri wawe. Kuringaniza kuruhande rwinyuma rwikirenge kuruhande wegamiye, no kuruhande rwimbere rwikirenge kuruhande wegamiye.
- Fata umwuka utinze, wimbitse.
- Subiramo wegamiye kurundi ruhande rwumubiri wawe.
- Subiramo kuri buri ruhande inshuro 2-3.
- Rambura kandi uyinyeganyeze.
Kandi, niba ushaka iminota igera kuri 6 yubwenge kugendana na Dr. van del Kolk, kanda hano .
Urakoze,
Meaghan P. Ruddy, impamyabumenyi y'ikirenga.
Visi Perezida
Ibikorwa byamasomo, Isuzuma ryibigo niterambere,
n'Umuyobozi mukuru ushinzwe ubushakashatsi n'iterambere
Ikigo cya Wright Centre for Graduate Education Education
