Whole-Person Wellness Blog: Cultivating a sense of belonging and authenticity
Exploring the importance of belonging
When you think of the word belonging, what comes to mind? I think of the ability to be seen and heard, and to feel comfort in the space that surrounds me.
Belonging can have many different meanings. It allows us to feel connected, to feel a sense of safety, and to bring our full, authentic selves wherever we go.
In Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, belonging is an important component for achieving self-actualization or self-fulfillment.
When we think of children, belonging is an essential building block for their self-esteem. I started reading “The Power of Showing Up” a few months ago. I often find a deep correlation between safety and a sense of belonging. The authors of the book, Daniel J. Siegal, M.D., and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D., describe this correlation in depth. They discuss how to cultivate a child’s healthy development through the 4 S’s: Safe, Seen, Soothed, and Secure. This is also incredibly vital for adults as well!
What are some ways in which you feel safe, seen, soothed, and secure?
Finding meaning and purpose strengthens our sense of belonging and authenticity. When I was just 5 years old, I dreamed of becoming a veterinarian – a reflection of my deep desire to help those in pain. That instinct to support others never faded. As an adult, I’ve spent most of my career in health care, mental health, and substance use treatment. This work not only brings a profound sense of fulfillment, but also offers continual opportunities to grow, evolve, and gain insight through the stories and experiences that others so generously share.
So, how do we establish a sense of belonging for others? How do we create safe spaces for individuals to thrive?
(Reminder: Safety is an integral part of the Sanctuary model!)
Here are some simple, easy steps:
- Offer someone a Paylocity recognition to feel acknowledged and valued.
- Be kind. We all might be fighting a battle we know nothing about. Utilize Sanctuary tools. For example, instead of asking, “What’s wrong with you?” shift the narrative to find out “What happened?” or “What’s going on with you?”
- Join a new support or community group, or spend time with loved ones who allow you to be authentic.
- Reflect on your identity. Take some time to explore who you are and your strengths. The deeper we understand ourselves, the better we can understand and embrace others. At left is an example I have created from my own lived experiences, upbringing, and background.
- Be curious! Step outside of your comfort zone and learn something new about a new culture, group, or background.
- Embrace differences.
Want to learn more? Listen to this individual’s early childhood experiences of often being bullied and losing support from others. It’s a great reminder that we all just want to be accepted and treated with empathy and kindness.
Thank you,
Allison LaRussa, BA, CPS, RYT
Associate Vice President of Health and Wellness
