Future Focus: Intentions, Goals, and Change
Future Focus: Intentions, Goals, and Change
Hapa ni kwa 2023 iliyojaa chochote tunachohitaji kujua kwamba tunatunzwa na kuungwa mkono.
Unaweza kufuta hii na kuendelea na siku yako, au unaweza kuendelea kusoma jinsi lengo la baadaye linavyohusiana na uponyaji katika Sanctuary.
Popote pamekuwa na wanadamu, kumekuwa na matambiko ya kukiri mizunguko ya kupita kwa wakati. Kuna njia nyingi tunazotia alama kile ambacho kimepita na kile tunachotarajia huenda bado kinakuja, iwe ni kwa sherehe za mwaka mpya, maadhimisho ya mwezi mpya, siku za kuzaliwa, kumbukumbu za miaka, au kumbukumbu.
Sote tumesikia kuhusu thamani ya kuweka lengo, iwe ubao wa Pinterest, uandishi wa habari, au kupata kocha, mpangilio wa malengo unaozingatia siku za usoni unaonekana kuwa hasira kwa muda mrefu. Kwa wale wetu ambao huwa na mwelekeo wa kukaa kwa muda mrefu katika siku za nyuma, mwelekeo huu kuelekea siku zijazo unaweza kuwa wa manufaa makubwa.
For those living with distress, it may seem near impossible.
Kwa nini ni hivyo?
It is because triggers transport the person who lived the experience to the past, to the emotional place and time of the event, often without the person knowing what is happening. The pattern-matching prowess of the human organism is, in these moments, its worst enemy. What feels like danger may not actually be, and the experiencer is prevented from moving forward by very real physical sensations delivering the message that what happened in the past is happening right now in the present.
Distress flies under the radar in this way, because it feels like real and justifiable responsiveness. Someone uses a tone, gives a look, says something, and suddenly we’re reacting. Since we can identify the reasons for our (re)actions, we convince ourselves that it is just how we are. In this way, reactions become personality traits. Truly pernicious.
This is an example of why focus is so vital for people who work in this field. We bring awareness to our triggers, which is a great first step, but if it is the only step we take suddenly we’re aware of what we’re doing but still rather helpless to stop it. If we bring a future focus to our awareness of triggers, we can create goals for alternate versions of the immediate, the short-term, and the long-term futures we wish for ourselves and our environments. If we are consistent in visualizing more helpful options, our emotional reactivity will begin to respond to these futures rather than our pasts, giving us the opportunity to access whole lives that maybe we didn’t have access to before.
Ni kazi ngumu na yenye bidii, lakini chukua muda sasa hivi ili kuibua taswira ya toleo la maisha yako ambalo ungependelea zaidi. Kweli kujisikia. Ikiwa akili yako itaanza kukataa kwa mazungumzo ya kukanusha, omba sehemu hiyo ishikilie kwa muda mfupi tu.
Tunaweza kufanya hivi. Kweli tunaweza. Tunaweza kuifanya pamoja.
Kidokezo cha Haraka
Katika roho ya uwazi, lazima nikiri kwamba mimi ni mpya kwa mazoezi haya ingawa nimekuwa nikisikia jinsi inavyofanya kazi vizuri kwa miongo kadhaa Siri, ikidhihirisha, mambo hayo yote - kwa kweli ni nguvu kubwa ya kujiamini, nishati ya seli zetu zinazofanya kazi pamoja kuelekea lengo tunalofikiria kimakusudi. Je, hii inafanyaje kazi? Inafanya kazi kwa sababu ikiwa kweli, kwa makusudi kabisa unaweka malengo, utajifunza kile unachohitaji kujua kuhusu malengo hayo, tengeneza mazoea karibu na malengo hayo, na tabia hizo na elimu itakusaidia katika kufikia malengo hayo. Utaanza kutenda kana kwamba kitu unachotaka ni chako; kwamba ni suala la muda tu. Utabadilisha tabia zako mwenyewe, na wale walio karibu nawe wataanza kuona ndani yako kitu unachotaka kwako mwenyewe.
Njia moja rahisi ya kujihusisha na mchakato huu ni kuchagua neno la kujenga mwaka wako wa 2023. Neno moja tu, msemo mdogo, litakalokurudisha kwako wakati maisha yanapokuwa magumu. Sio uchawi, lakini inaweza kuwa ya kichawi. Ikiwa wewe ni mtu wa aina ya Forbes, hapa kuna makala kuhusu taswira na, kwa ajili tu ya hilo, hapa kuna Inc.com kuhusu mpangilio wa nia .
To paraphrase Mahatma Gandhi, if we want to change, we need to become the change we want to see.
Asante.
Meaghan P. Ruddy, Ph.D.
Makamu wa Rais Mwandamizi
Masuala ya Kielimu, Tathmini ya Biashara, na Maendeleo,
na Afisa Mkuu wa Utafiti na Maendeleo
Kituo cha Wright cha Elimu ya Uzamili ya Matibabu
