Future Focus: Intentions, Goals, and Change

Future Focus: Intentions, Goals, and Change

祝愿 2023 年充满我们所需的一切，让我们知道我们得到了关心和支持。

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只要有人类的地方，就有确认时间流逝周期的仪式。我们有许多方式来纪念已逝的时光和希望到来的时光，无论是庆祝新年、纪念新月、生日、周年纪念还是悼念活动。

我们都听说过目标设定的价值，无论是在 Pinterest 上的留言板、子弹日记，还是找一个教练，着眼于未来的目标设定似乎已经风靡了相当长的一段时间。对于我们这些倾向于在过去徘徊很久的人来说，这种面向未来的做法可能会对我们有很大的帮助。

For those living with distress, it may seem near impossible.

为什么会这样？

It is because triggers transport the person who lived the experience to the past, to the emotional place and time of the event, often without the person knowing what is happening. The pattern-matching prowess of the human organism is, in these moments, its worst enemy. What feels like danger may not actually be, and the experiencer is prevented from moving forward by very real physical sensations delivering the message that what happened in the past is happening right now in the present.

Distress flies under the radar in this way, because it feels like real and justifiable responsiveness. Someone uses a tone, gives a look, says something, and suddenly we’re reacting. Since we can identify the reasons for our (re)actions, we convince ourselves that it is just how we are. In this way, reactions become personality traits. Truly pernicious.

This is an example of why focus is so vital for people who work in this field. We bring awareness to our triggers, which is a great first step, but if it is the only step we take suddenly we’re aware of what we’re doing but still rather helpless to stop it. If we bring a future focus to our awareness of triggers, we can create goals for alternate versions of the immediate, the short-term, and the long-term futures we wish for ourselves and our environments. If we are consistent in visualizing more helpful options, our emotional reactivity will begin to respond to these futures rather than our pasts, giving us the opportunity to access whole lives that maybe we didn’t have access to before.

这是一项具有挑战性的高强度工作，但现在只需花一点时间，想象一下你最喜欢的生活版本。真的去感受它。如果你的大脑开始用否定的话语来否认它，请让那部分坚持片刻。

我们能做到我们真的可以。我们可以一起做到。

快速提示

本着透明的精神，我必须承认，虽然几十年来我一直听说这种做法很有效，但我还是第一次接触这种做法。"秘密"、"显现"，所有这些东西--它实际上只是自我信念的巨大力量，是我们的细胞朝着我们有意思考的目标共同努力的能量。它是如何起作用的？它之所以有效，是因为如果你真正地、有意识地设定目标，你就会学习到关于这些目标的知识，形成围绕这些目标的习惯，而这些习惯和教育将支持你实现这些目标。你会开始觉得你想要的东西就是你的，只是时间问题。你会改变自己的行为，你周围的人也会开始在你身上看到你自己想要的东西。

参与这一过程的一个简单方法是选择一个词来构建你的 2023。只要一个词，一个小小的咒语，当生活不可避免地遇到挑战时，它就会让你找回自我。这不是魔法，但可以很神奇。如果你是福布斯这样的人、 这里有一篇关于可视化的文章还有，只是为了好玩、 这里是 Inc.com 上一篇关于意图设定的文章.

To paraphrase Mahatma Gandhi, if we want to change, we need to become the change we want to see.

谢谢。